How To Get Girls To Feel Attraction
Hey, this is Dean Cortez from Mack Tactics with some more tips on how to take your skills with women to the next level.
Here is a letter from a reader that asks a fundamental question about how to get girls, and then I’ll give my solution…
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Hey Dean,
There’s this girl that I’ve liked for more than a year. A couple of weeks ago her boyfriend broke up with her.
So I was hanging out with her a couple of days ago, and I decided to finally to say to her, “Hey, in all honesty, would you ever date a guy like me?”
She told me, “Well, honestly…you’re too nice. For some reason, I like jerks. I know that sounds bad, but it’s the truth.”
I had no idea how to answer that. So I just acted like I only joking around, and wasn’t really into her, but inside I felt crushed.
I suppose it’s true what they say: “nice guys finish last.” I can’t wrap my mind around this, Dean — why women always seem to go for guys who are liars and jerks, while nice guys like me get left out in the cold.
I’m really hoping you have an answer to this…
- Frank, Chicago
>>>DEAN CORTEZ RESPONDS:>>>
Dean Cortez here. Before I got my skills and confidence with women and mastered this “game,” I used to be a classic example of a Nice Guy.
When I reflect on how many hot women I COULD have hooked up with…but didn’t, because my weak “Nice Guy” strategy screwed everything up…I want to kick myself!
Back in those days, when I liked a girl, I would always make myself available to her. I’d talk with her on the phone, or on the Internet, for as long as she wanted to. If she wanted to meet up and do something, I’d drop whatever I was doing and go see her.
If she was having problems with whatever creep she was currently sleeping with, I’d listen to her and try to be a sympathetic friend.
The bottom line was, instead of building a sexual connection with her, I behaved like her “friend” who didn’t have any other agenda.
I tried to seem as if I wasn’t like “those other guys” who only wanted to get in her pants.
Of course, the whole time I was pretending to be “Mr. Nice Guy,” all I could THINK about was sleeping with her…
I made the huge mistake that so many men make — thinking that building a FRIENDSHIP first was going to get me the sexual relationship later, if only I was patient enough.
But as you have probably noticed, it never works out this way. The guy keeps treading water in the “Friend Zone” until one of two things happens (and both outcomes are bad):
1. One night he finally decides to tell her what he really wants — and it’s a terribly awkward moment that leads to a rejection.
2. Or, she starts dating another guy who doesn’t want her “Nice Guy” friend hanging around. So, she stops hanging out him completely.
(Hey, if you were dating a girl, would you want her “Nice Guy” buddy hanging around her all the time, obviously hoping to get in her pants? Of course not, you’d tell your girl to stop spending time with him.)
Look, I want to clear up some misunderstandings about Nice Guys and Bad Boys — because the reality is, “Nice Guys” really aren’t as sweet and honest as they like to think they are.
In fact, Nice Guys lie MORE than Bad Boys do
Think about it…
When a Nice Guy is always hanging around a woman he is HOPING to turn into his girlfriend, everything he does is a deception!
The entire “friendship” he is creating with the girl is phony. He really just wants to sleep with her! He is using this friendship as a TACTIC to try to get what he is truly after.
Well as you may have found out for yourself, it’s a very ineffective tactic. It doesn’t work. And don’t think you’re fooling the girl: if she knows that she is sexually desirable, and she knows you’re a heterosexual MAN with needs, then obviously she knows what you REALLY want is to sleep with her.
She knows what the Nice Guy is REALLY trying to get from this “friendship”. But she’s not going to give it to him, because he isn’t projecting any of the qualities that she finds SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE in a man.
The Nice Guy is projecting weakness instead of confidence. He’s also demonstrating that he is completely available to hang out with her whenever she wants, instead of being a man with a busy social life and OTHER options.
(Remember, women want a man who is desired by other women! The more options she THINKS you have, the more she’ll want you!)
Bad Boys DO have these qualities that women are hard-wired to pursue. And when Bad Boys talk to women, they behave in a masculine, flirtatious, slightly cocky way.
I have a good buddy who is total Bad Boy with women. He’s not some tattooed UFC fighter, rock musician, or strip club bouncer. In fact, he wears a suit every day to his 9-to-5 office job.
But when he approaches and talks with women, he gives off a total Bad Boy vibe. This means he is cocky, playful and ultra-confident — and he also acts like he is not easily impressed, no matter how hot she is.
I was hanging out with him at a club last night. He said to a girl…
“I hope your boyfriend isn’t here, because I’m about to totally flirt with you. How can you blame me, when you’re wearing a dress like that?”
He delivered this opener with a confident smile and the correct body language. He then transitioned into the conversation with no delay (this is all explained in the Mack Tactics “Ultimate Approach” book), and started moving things in the right direction.
He asked her some clever questions to get her sharing things about herself, and then he said to her:
“You’re actually pretty cool, it’s a shame that it would never work out between us. You’re nothing like the girls I usually date.”
Then he immediately changed the subject. He didn’t give her any further explanation — which messed with her mind a bit, and made her want to PROVE that she was worthy of dating a guy him!
A few minutes later he started talking to her about how he’s a big fan of getting massages. He said to her, “If you know how to give amazing massages, then this MIGHT work out between us. If not, it’s cool, I can be your wingman tonight and help you meet a guy.”
(This is a cool game to play with women. Tell her you’re going to be HER wingman! Then point out some dudes in the room that you know she will TOTALLY NOT be interested in, and offer to introduce her…she will laugh and squirm…then keep teasing her and flirting.)
Then he used another textbook “Bad Boy” tactic on her: he WALKED AWAY.
Yes! He told her he had to go say hi to some people and that he’d come back and talk to her a little later.
Then he ditched her and hung out with me and my buddies for 10 minutes. We were all joking around and having a good time, and the whole time, the girl was WATCHING him and WAITING for him to come back and keep flirting with her!
Eventually, he did…and within 30 minutes, he used a “Deal Closer” tactic to pull her out of the venue and bring her home.
The *trick* to getting really good with girls is to add a “Bad Boy Edge” to your game that conveys confidence and masculinity.
I’m not saying you need to act like a jerk, or disrespect women. Girls are not “into” those qualities. Rather, they will ACCEPT these qualities from a Bad Boy who she is powerfully attracted to.
You can be the best of both worlds: a man with confidence and integrity, but one who also has the BAD BOY EDGE that makes women desire you in a sexual way — not just “as a friend.”
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